Posted by annierose on July 19, 2006, at 17:13:44
In reply to My therapist is pregnant terminating all therapy, posted by valene on July 19, 2006, at 10:10:07
You story struck a personal chord with me. First off, it's horrible. I would be full of lots of emotions as well. Anger, betrayal would top the list. Intellectually though, I'd try to understand that promises made before she got pregnant are hard to keep. A mom-to-be can never really know how she is going to feel about motherhood until it's knocking at her door, or even after the baby is in her arms. And she is giving the two of you three months to transition to another therapist. She is trying to make things right. And she still wants to see you for meds upon her return. Try to be generous if you are able. Don't make a decision today. Give yourself time to sort through all of your feelings. I know how overwhelming they can seem.
My story: Seventeen years ago during a routine therapy session, with a T I had been seeing for 4 years or so (I lost count) told me she was pregnant. The way she told me bothered me (that's another story). Like you, I was stunned. I never looked at her body to notice the change. I think she was 5 or 6 months pregnant. I tried to continue the session as if it didn't bother me. She was going to continue practicing after the birth of her baby, but didn't tell me how long she was taking off, etc. The more I continued with the session, the more angry I got. I walked out, quit and never saw her again. That was my mistake. I often wonder what triggered my over-reaction.
Two and half years ago I did call and make an appointment with this therapist. And I am still seeing her today. It is wonderful working with her once again. I called her just to finally say "Goodbye". But now I'm finishing the work I began all those years ago.