Posted by ElaineM on July 19, 2006, at 16:25:55
In reply to My therapist is pregnant terminating all therapy, posted by valene on July 19, 2006, at 10:10:07
Wow val, that must've hit you like a ton of bricks. My last T told me that she was pregnant after 4 months -- I couldn't tell either. She took a month off to have the baby and then came back very part-time after that, to follow-up with the people who had been referred to her from the hospital.
I mentioned it to my T now (how difficult seperations are) and I said, "You know, because she left on maternity leave." And he made a "Tss" noise - which to me sounded like "Figures!". Another pdoc made a similar comment. They seemed wary of sending clients to young female T's. Lucky for me, mine came back after the month was up. She committed to finish out another year with me -- she did -- and then I was sent on my way to who I'm with now.
I can understand how crushed your sense of trust is now. Do you think if she warned you from the beginning you'd be able to take it better? Like expecting it would've prepared you or something? I don't blame you for not wanting to take the risk again -- but perhaps that will change. Maybe she knows a lovely collegue you could interview once the shock wears off a little.
Do you think you might use the rest of your time together talking about what this has done to you, and your sense of trust, and ways that it could be mended in the future?
Sorry you feel so abandoned.
take care, Elaine