Posted by SLS on July 15, 2006, at 8:32:56 [reposted on July 15, 2006, at 13:30:48 | original URL]
In reply to Can't Get Over It, posted by cecilia on July 15, 2006, at 8:10:02
> Soon it'll be the 9th anniversary of the day my ex-T got me to quit by telling me she dreaded our sessions.
Holy expletives!
> She deliberately chose to say what she knew would give me maximum humiliation after she had failed to get me to quit by telling me "I can't help you, you obviously need to be depressed.'
Some brains don't know any other way to be until they are forced to reset themselves.
> I deserved it,
I'm sure you did not.
> I was a terrible client.
I'm sure you were not.
I am absolutely positive that you did the best you could at any given moment in time. What more could you possibly ask of yourself?
I cannot speak to the motives of your ex-T, but I am pretty sure that your motives were those of self-improvement and the cessation of pain. Obviously, your ex-T was incapable of facilitating your movement down a path that would lead you to a place acceptable to you. I doubt that you are without the resources to forge such a path with the right guidance, even if it should come entirely from within. It seems to me from your writings that you have sufficient cognitive and emotional capacity to be able to accomplish a great deal. The onus for any lack of accomplishment must therefore be on your ex-T. Don't personalize it. It is not yours to own.
- Scott
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