Posted by Racer on July 14, 2006, at 19:04:35
In reply to Re: The elephant in my room » ClearSkies, posted by annierose on July 14, 2006, at 16:25:46
I couldn't talk to my erstwhile therapist about restrictive eating, and my erstwhile pdoc had said he wanted to talk to her about it. I knew I had to do something, but I also couldn't do it in person.
So, I left a message on her voicemail, over a weekend. It worked. It was still hard, but it worked.
The other issue, I really hadn't ever admitted to anyone, and it is a very large elephant, and I am ashamed of myself over it, and still cry a lot when I think about it, and cringe and try to hide.
I was hating myself one day, really thinking I was below pond scum on the ladder of life, and I "practiced" by telling GG about it. That was probably trying to convince her I really am as horrible as I think I am -- she wasn't convinced, because she is one of the most generous people I've ever met -- but it was good practice for me. Eventually, on another day when I was trying to convince my therapist that I was pretty thoroughly hopeless, I told her about it, too.
Her reaction was hard for me to take, because it dealt with the whole, "That's not how you'd see it if it happened to someone else, is it?" thing, you know? That's a different story, though. She was supportive, and tried to help me get angry about it, although that hasn't come yet...
Anyway, if you try either of those, I'd recommend voicemail. I'd hate to think of you loathing yourself nearly as much as I had to in order to introduce my elephant.
Hope that helps.
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