Posted by cecilia on July 7, 2006, at 2:42:08
In reply to Re: Projective identification stands up/ recognize » gardenergirl, posted by Dinah on July 6, 2006, at 18:31:41
It's worse than trigonometry. Ok, plain old projection is when you're angry at your T so you think she's angry at you. (Though it seems to me that just because you project it doesn't mean it's necessarily not true, she could indeed be angry at you.) PI then is when you're angry at your T, you act in ways that make her angry at you and she says something hurtful in return because she introjects your anger? I guess I don't understand how this differs from plain old retaliation. Also my ex-T used to always call it projection when I said something like "I worry that you'll think I'm so stupid I don't know such and such is wrong with me." She would say this was projection, that I was the one who thought I was stupid. This never made the slightest sense to me. I knew perfectly well that such and such was wrong with me and I assumed she knew that such and such was wrong with me, what I was concerned about was whether SHE thought I was so stupid that I didn't know whatever it was. I see that this is neurotic and one of the many reasons I failed therapy, but I still don't get how it's projection. Cecilia
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