Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood?

Posted by antigua on June 21, 2006, at 20:22:14

In reply to How do you move on from an abusive childhood?, posted by happyflower on June 21, 2006, at 16:20:41

You eceived some excellent advice above, but I want to add something else. I know it may sound funny, but sometimes you have to grieve for what you never had. It can make you very angry, but it's also hurtful to know that you (we) missed out on some great opportunities that other more normal kids had. This was really hard for me to do--why didn't I have parents who saw my strengths and encouraged me to follow my dreams (as I do with my own children).
I think of how much I've lost because of the abuse--YEARS, a whole life really, that I will never have.
So don't underestimate grieving. It's part of letting go. I haven't fully let go, but it's funny but I told my T today that I can really see the benefit of letting go. Oh, but if it were only that easy!!
best,
antigua

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How do you move on from an abusive childhood? happyflower 6/21/06
Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? sunnydays 6/21/06
Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? » happyflower Tamar 6/21/06
Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? antigua 6/21/06
Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? » antigua sunnydays 6/21/06
Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? » Tamar orchid 6/21/06
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Re: How do you move on from an abusive childhood? Daisym 6/22/06
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