Posted by happyflower on June 19, 2006, at 21:09:43
In reply to Re: Crash, posted by ElaineM on June 19, 2006, at 20:48:43
Hi Tamar,
First of all I am sorry you are hurting so much and I know how hard of a decsion it was for you to do therapy with him again.
Now this is just a hunch, but I remember you talking about your intense love you had for him the first time around . Could it be that he remembers or knew this from the first time and he is now wanting to prevent you from getting too attached? So he is overcompensating this time? And since he seems so different than before, it hurts so much because you want the old T back?
Or maybe could it be that you have changed and maybe it has affected your view of him? I am just throwing out some guesses. But I have heard before that when you go back to a T that you have had therapy with before, that it does feel different, but it is usually because of your feelings have changed. Now I am just guessing here or offering some suggestions on what could be happening. I don't know, really, but could one of these things have anything to do with it? Well anyways, I guess it doesn't matter why, it just matters that you aren't getting what you need at the momement from him. ((((((Tamar))))) You are a smart women, and I know you know what is the best thing to do. if it was me, I would still try to connect with him since it hasn't been that long you have been seeing him the 2nd. time. Keep posting okay, and let us know how you are. When is your next appointment?
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