Posted by ElaineM on June 19, 2006, at 20:48:43
In reply to Crash, posted by Tamar on June 19, 2006, at 18:56:20
Tamar:
I wish I could say something to help you, especially since you give out so much help yourself. You deserve a T who treats you better. From the bit I know of your T, he sounds like one of those "circular" talkers. That used to drive me crazy with the first woman I saw. It made it too hard to tell if she was really listening to what I was saying, or just hearing enough to deliver her next, predicatable line. I told her it made me feel like a brick, when I was supposed to be trying to learn how to be a more functional Human. It sounds as though your T likes the neutral language too.Have you ever asked him directly if he has any suggestions as to how he can seem more emotionally connected, or how he can seem more therapeutically caring (in a good way). Have you ever flat out asked if he cares about you, or your therapy? Maybe you could ask him questions about your "connectedness", like "Do you care about me?"(or whichever ones you're wondering about) and then tell him what you would say if you were a T, and then ask him what he thought of the exchange. (I'm sorry if this is all inappropriate, if so then just ignore it, I don't really know what questions aren't normally asked)
I know how hard it is to start all over again with someone else. You must feel so frustrated. I'm sorry you are so sad.
((((((Tamar))))))Thinking of you, Elaine
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