Posted by littleone on June 7, 2006, at 21:59:56
I thought I would put this down here so I don't hijack Cricket's thread (note that cricket is not the same poster as me, littleone)
>>> Whereas if someone is upset about something but posts with a calmer tone, then they generally get fewer replies.
>>Do you wonder if your tone suggests assurance? Less need, more reflection? Insight over raw emotion?
It could seem that way to some. It just makes me feel sad to think that there's a belief that I'm less in need of help just because I'm not as vocal about that need. I know that for me (who never speaks up), the very fact that I do post something is a very big risky step forward and a very big deal for me.
>>....because I feel a kinship with you in some aspects of emotional reactions, and I can't imagine I'd not pick something up.
I'm a touch baffled, and sincerely sorry.My comments were certainly not against you personally Larry. In fact, you are one of the few people who have responded to me on multiple posts. It was more an observation of babble in general.
I've always appreciated your thoughtful and insightul replies. Plus I'm well aware that you were blocked at the times I posted my last few threads. You have nothing to apologise for.
I've talked to my T about this stuff a little and learnt some interesting things. But this is a hard subject for me and is tied into a lot of other hard subjects. Sometimes I don't do a good job of holding it in and it leaks out on to babble. I'm sorry for that.
>> I think the more you post, the more people get to know you and are more likely to respond.
I have had plenty of threads that just sat there. But I keep posting away.
Its definately hard to not turn it into a popularity contest at first. But I have found that , that problem has passed for me completely.
Sorry littlone that you have felt ignored.
And good on ya for saying so!!!!
Take care.
MuffledYou are a sweety muffled. I do try to post, but my instinct is to hide away and be invisible. Even after over 2 years of therapy, I've only just really started to actually talk to my T. In the past I've always just handed him a bunch of stuff I've written and he's spent the session talking about it. Trusting and opening are very hard for me.
And even when I do open up here, I really kick myself afterwards for being too open and too revealing and giving too much away.
This post was very hard for me to write, but I really didn't want to ignore the two of you. I wanted to let you know that I really appreciate what you both said.
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