Posted by Daisym on June 1, 2006, at 0:33:08
In reply to Re: Is it always more important to talk about it?, posted by Dinah on May 31, 2006, at 13:40:07
He said, "usually, but not always." "Depends"
And then he sort of grinned and said, "not very helpful, am I?" Nope!
Together we tried to sort through the external issue of wanting something (I did NOT use hugs as an example) and the internal issue of why I might want something. Like, I know talking about my childhood has been disruptive in so many ways and it may well have been better left alone -- not discussed. But internally there was a need to share it with someone.
But I agree with Dinah. It is so true of human beings that the forbidden becomes the obsession. And I've never believed that one size fits all. The one thing I do know is that many of the "rules" of therapy are to protect therapists from us, not the other way around. And I can understand this, as hurtful as it is sometimes.
So my first question I'd want answered is "do you hug clients." And then I might ask for one.
Therapy is so, so, so hard.
Hang in there.
poster:Daisym
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