Posted by All Done on May 31, 2006, at 1:03:47
Whatever "it" is, that is.
At my last session, I told my T about a thread from awhile back. If you could ask your T one question that he or she would have to answer, what would it be? I posted something, but then thought about it some more. I came up with the question, "have you ever had a dream about me?" Anyway, I told my T this was my question. I immediately said I knew he couldn't answer. If he did, and the answer was no, that would crush me. If he didn't, I would assume he couldn't because the answer was no. And, I'm guessing he couldn't tell me if he did. So, we talked about what I hoped for and what it would mean to me if he did dream about me. (That I'm a part of his "real" life, even his unconscious life, and I matter enough for him to dream about me.) It also moved into a discussion about what I imagine his family to be like and how I want to be more like him. It was an interesting and fruitful discussion. What I'm wondering is, would it ever help for me to hear his answer instead of just talking about it?
Then, I've been dancing around the issue of a hug from him for months, I think. I told him a dream I had where he hugged me and I think he was actually moved by it. We talked again on Saturday about what I would get out of a hug from him. It was very difficult and emotional for me to tell him. I know it's important, but again, would it ever help to actually get the hug?
It gets exhausting, you know? I feel like we're talking everything to death. I know...it's talk therapy, but can't a hug ever just be a hug?
Laurie
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