Posted by Jost on May 24, 2006, at 21:44:56
In reply to Re: does the pain of losing a T ever go away..... » Jost, posted by shrinking violet on May 24, 2006, at 19:47:22
Shrinking Violet, no one can say, for sure--of course.
I had an ending with a therapist that was extremely turbulent-- I was very angry, hurt, confused, self-blaming, defensive, critical, sad. I felt abandoned,and badly treated, but also questioned what I had done to evoke his reactions.
I saw a number of "okay" (to me) therapists for awhile, without settling down. Then, an acquaintance recommended another therapist, who was very sensitive and caring, and deep. That helped with everything over time.
Probably you can't separate "everything" from the loss and regret and other feelings about your old therapist. If the new therapist has helped with "everything," those feelings are part of it.
Hold onto the feelings as long as you need them, but maybe, someday, you'll realize you haven't felt them for a while--and it's all right.
Jost
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