Posted by bassman on May 3, 2006, at 7:13:48
In reply to Re: So confused and upset, posted by Daisym on May 2, 2006, at 21:55:20
Daisy,
Best of luck with this journey. What I find interesting is that I had exactly the same fears as you (getting somehow, involuntarily really, sucked back into the situation-and feeling bad about therapy), although I'm male and wasn't sexually abused. The getting sucked back in was a REAL fear, as in number one, and I don't know why-but then I mentioned this before. I think it was because I was so afraid of my ex-wife...could that be it with you, too? Just a simple, "If I just freeze in life, maybe nothing worse will happen (I called this "predictable discomfort")-but if I do some stuff on my own and assert myself, who knows what horrible thing will happen?". It seems like every woman I've ever talked to that was considering divorce was afraid of what the husband might do physically, as well, even when abuse seemed very unlikely.Again, best of luck. It takes awhile, like a couple years, to get things sorted out, so be patient with yourself and the situation. Again, best of luck.
bassman
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