Posted by Tamar on April 16, 2006, at 19:48:25
In reply to Re: I love you guys!, posted by Annierose on April 16, 2006, at 17:04:48
> I'm sorry you are in such a rough spot. But I am glad to hear that you are still working with your T.
Yeah. I hardly ever give up on relationships. For a while I wasn’t sure how I could go forward and I wondered if we’d done as much work as we could do together, but somehow we found a way through it. Sometimes I think they have to trust us as much as we have to trust them.
> I agree that before I'd leave the photographs, I would ask how he felt about it. I'm guessing he'd be okay, but only he can answer that for himself.
Yeah. I will definitely talk to him. I find I’m not always able to predict how he’ll react (which is really scary for me) but as long as I can face the possibility of a refusal without it feeling like a total rejection I’ll cope with whatever he says.
> My T recently suggested dumping all my "stuff" on her lap before I left each session. Although I never left anything symbolic, just thinking about it has helped. If IRL I start to worry or fret about an issue, I just remind myself that it's not my problem to deal with right then; it can wait until my next session.
I wish I could manage to do that by thinking about it. My therapist suggested something similar before, but I guess I just can’t imagine him taking it with him. I imagine him standing up and leaving the room and all my stuff is left piled up in a corner…
> I hope it works for you as well. I understand when we are feeling so vulnerable, it is hard to read and post here. I do miss your insight and hope you are feeling stronger soon.Thanks Annierose. It’s getting better, very slowly...
Tamar
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