Posted by fairywings on March 27, 2006, at 20:03:51
In reply to Yep, I've internalized my mother's criticism, posted by Racer on March 27, 2006, at 1:33:40
In my head the criticism didn't die with my parents. Oh, if only it would. I did feel like a huge weight was lifted off of me after a had a brief period of grieving....I know that probably sounds mean, but I was always afraid of what was coming next from my parents. I still think there's a lot of grief in there, but I can't get to it bec. I"m still so hurt at how hateful they were. I supposed they were both so unhappy that they had to take it out somewhere.
As for the book, and supposed lack of knowledge...how about, "I always found history so boring, but, I did read this great book on mother daughter relationships, and it made me really sad for what we never had." The sweater comment was so hurtful and rude. I'm so impressed that you can do that - esp. w/o a pattern. If I had the guts with my mom I'd have said, "It was knitted by someone who was supposed to be very special to you." But like someone said, those types of comments usually go in one ear and out the other. Sad the legacy parents leave sometimes.
I still want a mom to love me and be close to me, but I don't think I ever wanted that from her. I wanted her to like me and be nice to me, but she was never the "type" to be maternal and loving. I think I want a daddy more though.
Sorry it went so badly. How often do you have to endure that kind of torture? I like Dinah's idea of finding humor in it. I wish I'd been that creative.
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