Posted by LegWarmers on March 15, 2006, at 0:21:39
In reply to Re: Nightmares » LegWarmers, posted by Daisym on March 14, 2006, at 22:32:30
> I think you should bring this up in therapy...
Im going to, the dream was eeerily real, I was married with the most horribly behaved children and I didn't manage that well lol
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> And I think dreams aren't always true, or maybe aren't even usually true. But I think they represent what we are trying to work out. It is likely that YOU are worried about not being a good mother and perhaps there is something that has happened, or not happened, that is making you feel that way. Did you fight with your child?I overreacted to having goop put in my hair by my firends kid, it was awful, the sticky goop I mean. where does all that finger stickiness come from anyway lol But there have been numerous times like that, are you just supposed to say, sure put what ever you want in my hair? OR here would you like to rip the heels off my shoes for fun? You know?
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> This is a subject I struggle with all the time. I think easy kids make their parents look good and more challenging kids make us look at ourselves and wonder what we are doing wrong. My therapist has pointed out, ever so gently, much to the deflation of my ego, that kids have lots of influences and what I do or don't do is only part of the equation. Especially as they get older.thats really interesting, I have never thought about children that way, but you are absolutely right! Difficult children would really get a parent to question themselves, it is a lot about diffivult and easy.
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> I don't think any of us are perfect. But if we try our best and let our kids know we love them, I think they will turn out OK. Remember, you only have to be a "good enough" mother. :)Thanks daisy!
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