Posted by TherapyGirl on February 28, 2006, at 12:32:05
In reply to Re: i can't do it anymore » B2chica, posted by asmita on February 28, 2006, at 12:00:02
> i never really opened up and he doesn't seem to understand why.
> a few weeks ago he said he admitted that he had been floundering a bit, wondering how to work best with me. but he assured me that he's there for me and not trying to get rid of me. yet, i still feel like he is.This is not your fault -- it's his for not being able to figure it out. I sat on my therapist's couch for FOUR YEARS before I could speak. And I mean speak at all. We sat there, week after week, not saying a word beyond hello and goodbye. She invited me to talk, she encouraged me to talk, but she never forced me. That would have been a technique used by my mother. I had to know that therapy was safe, that I was in control, that SHE was safe for me. And she was.
I'm sorry this therapist hasn't figured out how to be safe for you.
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