Posted by James K on January 4, 2006, at 18:27:10
In reply to Re: Do me a favour? » fires, posted by alexandra_k on January 4, 2006, at 18:01:55
> On abuse...
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> > I first became aware of FMS when families were being torn apart by seemingly well intentioned, but horribly wrong/misguided therapists.
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> Yes. That does happen. Cases have been documented.
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> But on the other hand... Some people speak out about abuse and other people don't believe them. Other people put it down to a false memory when it is not.
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> Of course the situation isn't either
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> ALL cases of alleged abuse are true
> or
> ALL cases of alleged abuse are false
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> Some are true and some are false
> But even that is too simplistic
> Some are true in these respects and false in these others
> And so on.
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> I wondered whether you might have had false allegations against you or someone you know.
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> I am glad that is not the case.
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> But yes. It happens to some people.
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> And I think that just as we should be careful not to deny peoples reports of abuse...
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> We should be careful not to wholeheartedly embrace peoples reports of abuse either...
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> The point is...
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> The person is hurting.
> In the present...>
>
I tried to make this a link, but I don't know what I'm doing. I just got the net at home a few weeks ago. Here is an article by a man I admire that adresses not whether abuse or fms exist, but how to have a proper investigation when allegations are made. It doesn't comment on adult after the fact allegations, so it is not totally relevant to all discussed in this thread, but we did start out talking about ice cream so I don't actually know if I'm hijacking the thread or not.
http://www.vachss.com/av_dispatches/disp_8900_a.htmlthanks. I hope those who are interested can get there from the above, I will test it.
James K
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URL: http://www.dr-bob.org/babble/psycho/20051229/msgs/595256.html