Posted by orchid on December 22, 2005, at 21:09:07
In reply to Gift Giving, posted by daisym on December 22, 2005, at 20:54:26
Your T is really wonderful and seems to be extremely nice. No wonder you like him so much :-)
I am glad that he responded the way he did. I sometimes thought a while back that he is perhaps encouraging your dependance. But now I take it back. I think the dependance and attachment is there anyway, and it is only good if the T openly acknowledges it and accepts it instead of trying to minimize it or reject it. I think this will help you heal more than if he had taken a distant and closed stance. I am sure, with time, you will be able to move past whatever suffering you are having now, and will be able to have warm and cherished memories.
((Daisy))
> So today I gave my therapist two things that made me think of him. The first was easy to give -- a silly little book called "Chocolate Therapy" and a smart *ss card. The book essentially asks about your favorite kind of chocolate, what shape and what center and tells you about yourself. One of the shapes listed was a spiral, which I marked for him. He laughed.
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> The second, main gift, made me a lot more nervous. It was a CD of really beautiful music that had "spoken" to me and I wanted to share it with him. (I was nervous because I found out the song I really connected with on the CD was called, I Love You.) I wrote him a long note in a card saying that if my therapy had a sound track this would be it. And I told him which song was my favorite but that I was worried he would misunderstand my intention in giving it to him. I shouldn't have worried. He received it with the grace he always does and said that my card touched him and he couldn't wait to listen to the song. At the end of the session, he thanked me again and I looked at him and said, "thank you for letting me do this for you. It feels nice." He said I certainly didn't need to get him a gift but he could tell that this came from a really special, heartfelt place and he was glad I shared it with him.
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> And of course I cried when I left (geez, it is only a 4 day separation!) and made him promise to be careful during the weekend. And then called later and left a stupid message. I hate this weepy sad place I'm in but I'm really glad that he liked his gift. :)
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> Anyone else want to share?
poster:orchid
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