Posted by Tamar on December 14, 2005, at 17:58:28
In reply to She hasn't called, posted by Voce on December 11, 2005, at 21:19:45
> But then again I did really downplay my need to talk to her. I told her to just call me whenever it was convenient for her. So she may do so next week.
Can you call her again? I think it would be OK, from what you said about her response to your last call.
> I just really want to go TALK to her in person. I have 2 issues that are bothering me, both about my upcoming marriage. One sexual, one familial (is that the right word?) She is the only one I could ever dream of talking to about the sexual issue. I am going to ask if I can stop by and see her perhaps...just to talk a little...and I will offer to pay her.
I think if you have issues you need to talk about, it’s a good idea to see her if you can. I have to say (having been married nearly 10 years, and with a troubled sex life the whole time) that dealing with sexual issues sooner rather than later is essential. Marriage is really hard work, and sex is one of the things that can make it all worthwhile. But it’s not easy for everyone.
> But I think making that connection on Thursday night was just what I needed to make it through the weekend, even if we didn't talk a whole lot.
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> I'm also agonizing over whether or not to send ex male T a Christmas card. I bought one, but I bought a cheap one so that if I don't send it, it's no big loss!!!I’m in the same place. I think I’ve almost decided to send one. I’ve decided the purpose is to offer him some indication that the work we did together was useful to me and is still helping. I suspect that therapists really love hearing from former clients and are secretly disappointed that they can’t respond to us more fully!
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