Posted by orchid on December 13, 2005, at 4:55:15
In reply to Seemingly simple things which are so very hard..., posted by jammerlich on December 13, 2005, at 3:26:55
I can understand your pain.
But I think the fault and the shame lies with your T and not with you. It is her fault because she made you feel so bad about being able to contact her and to send a christmas card.
I think an ethical therapist would leave the client with a good feeling about the therapist and the therapy, and the confidence that a child will have about her/his own parents.
But many therapists fail to do that, apparently sometimes knowingly so, and it makes it extremely hard for the client to move past it.
But it is not your fault. IT definitely isn't. What is happening is very much expected, and it is a shame on your therapist that she didn't leave you in a better state of mind.
poster:orchid
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