Posted by LauraBeane on December 9, 2005, at 14:56:47
In reply to Re: Forced distance (long) » LauraBeane, posted by one woman cine on December 9, 2005, at 10:23:36
I see him once a week. I have thought about asking to come more often but I sense a boundary there and I'm not sure myself if I want to go more often. I am afraid of becoming too dependent.
We have talked about this distancing a bit -- I once expressed confusion at what was happening, and he explained that he pulls back to get some distance. Yes it is a matter of style and I want to negotiate something that works for us both. Thank you for expressing it. That's exactly it.
I will think about the pacing. Yours is a different approach, I wonder if I could be more measured & allow time to process things a bit at a time. when we touch on something I do tend to run headlong into whatever it is we're discussing and all of a sudden I am in very deep.
I will bring it up again, because as you say it is problematic for me. Yet I worry about losing what I've got. I don't connect with others very often and I want to preserve this.
Thanks for your help, I really appreciate your reply.
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