Posted by gardenergirl on December 4, 2005, at 23:31:40
In reply to Re: Reframing and helping » gardenergirl, posted by alexandra_k on December 3, 2005, at 23:34:01
>> doesn't it take effort to tone them down?
> (and then wuoldn't you need 'recovery time' from the effort involved?)
> or if you make an effort then after time... do they not present as so intense in the first place?That's a good question. I did notice that when I was with my dad, and he was being so emotional, I wasn't crying much and I wasn't feeling things very intensely in the moment. I suspect it helped him, because if I just lost it and got all blubbery, I think that would have thrown him off or something. But still, it felt a little odd to me not to be so "engaged" in an emotional experience. I described it in therapy as feeling distanced or numb. Or maybe like I was a T and my dad was a client...which is weird. My T said that maybe I just was feeling things less intensely than usual and less intense than me dad.
I don't know. (shrugs)
That seemed to come with no effort on my part, but it felt weird. Still, I didn't necessarily have to sleep off or otherwise recover from that particular encounter, despite how moving it was.
(oh, and I don't really feel numb with clients, but I do manage somehow to keep from blubbering when I hear stuff that's painful or really moving. I've been known to get teary-eyed at times, and once or twice one fell...That's just what I'm made of, I guess.)
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> glad things went well for you.
> and well done about creepy uncle.
> sorry about the other one :-(Thanks.
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> oh yeah
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> GLAD YOU ARE BACK :-)Hey, are you shouting that at me? ;-)
It's good to be back.
Take care,
gg
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