Posted by happyflower on December 4, 2005, at 11:35:46
In reply to Re: therapist outside of office setting » happyflower, posted by muffled on December 4, 2005, at 11:14:03
Several months ago, before I started working out at the gym, I had issues with my allergist flirting with me big time when he saw me in the public and during his band rehearsals. I am sure some of you remember this. My DH was playing in a band with him for a few gigs and my allergist even invited me to play with the band too. Well my allergist was really going overboard and it did make my DH jeolous. He even told my DH that he was "lucky" to have a wife like me! LOL
Well my T knows my allergist and his wife and I discussed this with my T because even though it was flattering, I was worried my allergist would try take it farther. Well my T said something that maybe my allergist was having issues with seeing me out in the public, like he didn't know how to react to seeing me. My T even said if my allergist starts coming on stronger, I could remind him of "boundries" of doctor and patients. So I am wondering if therapists also are not sure how to act or deal with seeing their clients outside of therapy. If it weird for us, I bet it is weird for them too.
Today at the gym I saw my band director and his wife, and it was a little weird for me because he kept looking at me when he was walking around the track with his wife. Now I do have old issues with him that go back about 15 years when he said some sexual comments about me to some other band directors, one who used to be my boyfriends brother. Well I was told what the director said, and I was crushed because he was like a "hero" to me. How could he say such things about me, especially since I was a virgin and all.
Now my T said he saw other clients working out their before, but are they clients he is attracted to? I know some of you think I am "over looking" for clues if he is attracted to me. BUt I can tell you 100% he is, it is so clear, and I know he likes me as a person. We are so alike in our interests and view of the world (which are kinda unique views). I am okay with seeing him at the gym, I enjoy seeing him. He must like to see me their too, but I wonder if he is struggling with this as much as me? What do you think?
Don't worry I am being careful, I am just trying to figure what is going on in his head. Any theories. Whether they are right or wrong ethically.
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