Posted by Tamar on December 1, 2005, at 7:28:15
In reply to Re: (Yet) another perspective on love in therapy » Tamar, posted by 10derHeart on December 1, 2005, at 1:04:12
Hi 10der,
Thanks for that!
> Perhaps I'm a bit too "chicken" to even hear what the SO of a pdoc has to say.....but it's like the proverbial car wreck....possibly horrifying but you still just have to look.....
Yeah. I couldn’t help imagining my therapist’s partner... Not that I’ve ever met her…
> It's a confusing, scary and difficult topic. One I'm dealing with on some level right now with my T. (not romantic and/or sexual at the moment....that was ex-T <sigh> ) and it takes a lot out of both of us to try to keep working through it.
Yes, it’s certainly not easy, is it?
> I've said some of your words and ones that mean the same just today and last week in therapy.
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> "I can't stand feeling I might be invisible..."
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> "How will I ever know, really know, that *I* - me 10der the person - matters to you? The thought I really could just not matter is awful..."
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> "I'm terrified that this atttachment is all just..."ho-hum" to you. And if so, that means I'm nothing, not special, not unique, not anything but a subject to be studied in here..."
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> And on and on...(ad nauseum, I sometimes think).
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> It's hard as h*ll but we keep talking about it...You’re doing really well. It’s wonderful that you can keep talking about all this. I really admire your courage.
Tamar
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