Posted by muffled on November 24, 2005, at 20:36:23
In reply to Re: Ok, ok, ok » muffled, posted by Damos on November 24, 2005, at 16:21:51
>> - And so you should be, I think you all deserve gold stars for being so good. I hope it lasts too cause it makes me sad when any of you get hurt. You should all be real proud of yourselves though, that's 2 times now that things have got a bit shaky and no-ones got hurt. Big hugs for everyone.
***I'm sorry. I don't mean to make you sad. I know you struggle with sad. I'm sorry. :(
I didn't know it was 2x, I never thot of that. Thats so COOL!!!! THX for hugs, mmmmmmm:)> - T's are people too, some are more perceptive and intuitive than others and some have more experience with certain things than others - just like the rest of us. You're not a pain in the *ss to her or anybody else. You're just struggling with all that's going on is all - I would be too. I don't have anywhere near what you do going on in my life and I struggle and get frustrated with myself too, so don't be too hard on yourself okay. Give yourself time. None of us grown ups are perfect. You just let me know if there's anything I can do to help okay. That's what friends are for.
***Oh Damos, you have no idea. You are so very calming.
Thank-you so much.
>> > - Maybe she's just as scared as you are. I know I have times when I'm scared and not feeling safe that I lash out and push people away and they think I'm cranky and don't like them. But I'm not, not really, I'm just trying to protect myself. And sometimes I'm just plain afraid to let somebody love me cause that means being vulnerable. Just be patient with her Muffled.
***I am trying, I really am. I'm letting her come around more. Not always just shoving her away. I think today I may have had some good emotions from her, not sure. Thats new.
> - All I know is that you're sweet and kind and funny and caring and loving and that that's just exactly the kinda grow up I'd want to look after and take care of me. I think you do love her, but you're just not sure how to, and not knowing what all the stuff she has is scares you and makes you pull away a bit cause you're not sure you want to know, or what knowing it might mean. And it's okay to feel like that, it really is.***Now thats interesting, hadn't quite thot of it in that way? I will ponder this. Scares the freaking crap out of me it does. I'm hoping I'll never know much, don't need to.
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>> But I think little kids inside is a bit different and more difficult cause you can't just kiss it better and put a bandaid on their hurts, or just snuggle them up in your arms, cause those hurts are inside you. Give yourself time to learn how to soothe them when they're upset and hurting and how to listen and talk to them about what's going on.***Now THATs especially good. I have learned self soothing techniques, but never thot of using them elsewhere, just always used it on me, and then I couldn't get rid of her agitation. But then I could never connect at ALL with her either. Now I can a bit.
>>> - What precious girls you are. I can just see those pouty faces. I'm gonna put on my best pouty face too and let's just see who smiles first. Ready, set, go.......d*amn, you guys win. Shoulda known you can't beat girls in a pouting competition :-)
***You making BOTH of us laugh! Proly the happy one too.
:) :) :)>
> - Why don't you do sad Muffled? Being sad is okay. I get sad too sometimes, most everyone does. It's just a feeling and experiencing feelings is okay - I'm just learning that.***Yeah. I'm learning that too. Just there's some emotions I have kept stuffed inside for so long. I at least know what they are now, I didn't even know that before.
> > > (((((Muffled)))))
***Ahhhh:)
> > ***Thanks Damos.
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> - My pleasure
> (((((all the precious Muffled ones)))))***You make me feel normal and accepted. That is huge for me.
***You make her feel like she's somebody worthy, and thats absolutely immesureable. You talk to her and that makes her feel so good. God, I don't have the words to say how much it means to her.
Thanks again.
Wish you the best.
Muffled
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