Posted by fallsfall on November 22, 2005, at 14:04:14
In reply to Too sensitive -- need advice, posted by daisym on November 22, 2005, at 0:44:54
I think it is progress.
You need to start taking care of yourself, getting your OWN needs met - not just taking care of everyone else. Lots of times, the first time we can try something new is in therapy, because it is a safe place. So maybe you are trying out what it would be like to ask for your own needs to be met. You don't want to know how to make your husband's life better - you want to know how to make YOUR life better. So you are asking your therapist if this is OK. Can you get YOUR needs met in therapy, or do you have to worry about your husband's?
I think this is wonderful, and you should definately talk about you and let your husband fend for himself.
>That perhaps my husband needed my therapist more than I did but I wanted to be selfish and for once have things be about me.
It doesn't matter how much your husband needs your therapist. He can't have him. He is YOUR therapist. And you can insist on things being about you. And I don't really think that is being selfish - it is being a "self".
And why does this upset you? Maybe because it is a change. And change is scary. The unknown is scary. But your therapist will keep you safe while you try this out.
(((((Daisy)))))
Good for you!
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