Posted by cricket on October 17, 2005, at 7:41:51
In reply to Re: To My Therapist » cricket, posted by Tamar on October 13, 2005, at 16:12:54
> If your suspicions are correct and he is lurking, it might well become obvious now that you have posted this. If you don’t want to know whether he lurks, perhaps the best course of action is to head him off at the pass by raising this before he can give himself away.
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Yes, I hadn't thought about that. It's so hard for me to go in there to talk about anything at all.
> If he isn’t lurking, then I think he needs to read this!
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> I think it will help him to hear that you need him. I also think it will help if he realises just how hard you’re working to connect, despite all the misunderstandings.
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> If you decide to give this to him, I think it’s very likely that he won’t discuss his feelings for you. He won’t admit liking you too much or too little. And that might be frustrating and feel like another misunderstanding. But whatever the discussion about it, I really hope he will come to a better understanding of your perception of therapy, and it should make a difference to his practice.
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Thanks Tamar. It's actually prefereable to me right now if he doesn't discuss his feelings for me. It makes me very uncomfortable. Actually if they were negative feelings that might be okay. I could handle that. But positive ones make me want to flee. I know that probably doesn't make any sense.
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