Posted by LadyBug on October 13, 2005, at 23:43:48
In reply to Re: My therapist hurt my feelings » daisym, posted by Dinah on October 13, 2005, at 20:55:27
I can relate to how you feel. I too wanted to be held physically at my last session. When I got up to leave, I looked at her crying and said, "I need a hug," I went towards her and hugged her, she was caught off guard and didn't respond like she could have, but I just wanted to lay my head down on her and have her comfort me. As soon as I got out to my car, I called and left her a voice mail telling her how wrong I had been because touching in any form except for a hand shake is totally breaking a boundary. It wasn't her fault I chose to hug her and she couldn't push me away! I felt horrible and ashamed! I called and canceled my next appointment so I could process my thoughts better and feel more up to talking about what happened. I made a last min. long shot with her today to see if she had any times available tomorrow. I'm going in the morning and I'm sure I'll have some "splainin" to do!!
I've been going through total hell in my marriage the last 6 weeks and I was clinging to whatever felt safe. She feels safe to me and I wanted her to comfort me more than just emotionally. Gee, I'm an idiot. Learn from it, it's grist for the mill.
It's hard to have boundaries, but they are in place for our own protection.
I hope you work through this dasiy!! I can understand how much it hurt you and how it feels so much like rejection!!! This is hard especially because it is the very thing I suffered from as a little girl.
And I wish you brighter days in the near future. Hang tough!
LadyBug
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