Posted by orchid on October 13, 2005, at 20:40:40
In reply to My therapist hurt my feelings, posted by daisym on October 13, 2005, at 20:25:03
(((Daisy)))
It sounds really hard.I don't know what the right thing is. No touch is very difficult also. I think he should give you some form of physical contact - like shaking hands, or pat in the back - some minimal atleast so that it doesn't feel so bad. Absolutely no touch must feel really bad. I am with you on that one.
I wonder why he doesn't allow it. Maybe he thinks it will take away the emotional work.
I know it must feel like a huge rejection. Even if he says that he cares about you, still I think it is not enough.
But maybe he has good reasons for it. He is definitely not rejecting you, but he must have good reasons for doing the things the way he is doing.
I hope you feel better soon.
Please hang in there. Your T does care about you quite a lot. Maybe he is also feeling bad about his inability to offer you even minimal physical comfort. But he probably has a hard ethical code in that area, maybe because he allows so much of emotional attachemnt and dependancy. Maybe giving physical contact also might blow it out of proportion. I think he is keeping your good beign in mind ultimately.
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