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Re: yes, I guess so Shortelise

Posted by 10derHeart on September 30, 2005, at 17:08:07

In reply to yes, I guess so, posted by Shortelise on September 30, 2005, at 14:32:05

> Maybe I am being unreasonable...

I don't think so at all. I would feel just as you do, probably worse.
>
> I left a message this morning explaining that I amb eginning to panic a little and that I would really appreciate a call back. I don'tunderstand why she hasn't called, I really don't. Even if I divided my time in a certain way, I would make an exception and call if this were my job. She works out of her home.

She should have called. I mean, unless you find out later about some understandable emergency or something. People who work for/with a T. have to be especially sensitive about this. There is no way if a client sounds the least bit distressed they shouldn't be given priority. And when you don't sound distressed, still, you ought to get a return call in 24 hours or less - period.

Something like this happened to me around the 2nd session with the T. I've been seeing for 10 months now. He works alone, and just uses pager, answering machine to handle all calls. He was very ill - too ill to even go to the doctor the first day, so had to canx on me 3 hours prior to the appt. He said he'd call back within 24 hours. Well, I was in a bad way and didn't know him or trust him at all at that time. So I couldn't wait, and called him back after like 10 hours, saying I was very anxious. And you know, he called me right back, from home, still sick, and was lovely about it. He gave my anxiety so much respect, it was amazing. Because he *gets* it - which I'll bet your T. would/will, too. But possibly, this woman does not quite get it.

What you're going through now, is kind of similar to having a new T., though I know you've worked with this one for a long time. But the new setup and place, is *similar* enough to induce fresh anxiety, uncertainly and abandonment.

>
> I feel abandoned. I know this is ridiculous, but I really really left out in the cold.

Nope - not ridiculous. I feel it with you.
>
> But not crying yet.

((ShortE)) This too, shall pass, it just totally s*cks right this minute...

You wouldn't want to hear the message I might leave her. Stress, fear, worry and need can lead me to be VERY un-10derHeart like! Grrrr!

 

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