Posted by alexandra_k on September 4, 2005, at 16:53:59
In reply to Transference won, posted by FlyingKangaroo on September 4, 2005, at 0:50:58
Is it that he is unwilling to help you process it? I remember that you were having trouble with that...
> He refused to answer my question (are you married?) because he said it wasnt beneficial for me to know.
Yeah, that is a fairly standard response (to refuse to answer). But sometimes... Why is it important to you to know? What difference would it make to you?
I think that transference issues can be one of the hardest things for therapists (and clients) to deal with. Sounds like he isn't doing so well there...
You could ask about that before starting up with someone new, though. Tell them that transference issues came up after a couple months of therapy and that you left your last therapist because he wouldn't help you process that. Say that you are concerned about a repeat of that. See what they have to say.
And I know that I find it a lot different seeing a female t (though some people don't find such a difference).
I hope this doesn't put you off therapy forever :-(
Figuring out what is going on with transference can be a lot helpful.
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