Posted by fairywings on August 31, 2005, at 13:22:31
In reply to sex talk and T's gender..., posted by B2chica on August 30, 2005, at 12:15:27
First of all, I said on my latest post that you, B2 talked about a sexual history, sorry that was crushed.
I guess for me talking about sex and my comfort level depends on who I'm talking to. I feel comfortable if the person I'm talking to is comfortable with it. I'm not sure how comfortable I'll be with explicit details since it hasn't come up yet with this T. With the last T I know it wouldn't have been any problem at all. I was comfortable on the topic of sex with him. I'm fine with it with my p-doc, he's also male. I talked to my kids T, who's female. I've talked to my female friends, and I'm more comfortable with talking about it than my husband is.I agree that talking about certain things has to do with your relationship with your primary parent. I also agree to that I'd rather have a male T, but I love my kids T and she's female. I just feel like it's a warmer relationship with a man, and also I feel like most of my problems were with my dad, and men in general, so I should try to "work it out" with a male T. Does that make any sense at all, or am I rationalizing?
I guess if you need to learn to tell someone off, then going to a female T might be good. Maybe finding out that you can open up and develop a relationship with a female T is good?
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