Posted by daisym on August 31, 2005, at 11:08:47
In reply to Re: Progress with the Ego States... » Daisym, posted by alexandra_k on August 31, 2005, at 6:26:11
I think it is just hard to talk about this stuff without feeling defensive. I think we all want to believe that we have a full grasp on our inner workings and motivations. We don't. The brain is so complicated and we are just now beginning to understand things.
But I guess the most important issue is not what you remember, or what might be there. It is how you feel and what the effects on your life are. Sorting through helps a lot of people, leaving it alone helps others. I just read a case study on prisoners who were tortured and they were much healthier when they didn't relive the trauma in therapy but instead worked on daily coping skills. I wish this were true for csa but the studies don't show this. It seems that if the feelings have been frozen they need at some point to be released and worked through. Better to do it with a therapist than have a rupture without support.
It all hurts.
I'm sorry you've felt people pushing their ideas on you. My therapist has never led, ever. He just tells me it is OK to tell him. I'm still startled sometimes about what I hear myself say. You know that old joke, "did I just say that out loud?" That's me in therapy.
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