Posted by Damos on August 29, 2005, at 1:23:37
In reply to Re: dealing with crap » Damos, posted by rainbowbrite on August 29, 2005, at 1:00:35
Losing anyone is tuff enough. But suicide, suicide has a whole bunch of other dimensions to it that make it so raw and close to the surface for those left behind.
I honestly don't know if you can ever make sense of it in a way that makes it less triggery and easier to bear. I just don't know. All I do know is that all the could've, should've, would've, might'ves in the world don't count for nothing. All that counts is the life that was and the love and tenderness and affection and caring that makes the losses so very hard to bear. That, and that they wouldn't want us to be sad or feeling guilty. That was never in their minds. They don't blame us or hold us responsible in anyway. Sometimes there is a belief that they are easing everyones burden by doing this. Sorry, but I'm crying now, can't help it. The one you lost is probably looking at you now weeping enormous tears too, not wanting you to feel this way, wanting you to only remember the good, only ever the good and to celebrate their life, not their loss. As long as they are in your heart they are never lost. Not ever. Sh*t, I've completely lost it now, sorry.
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