Posted by LadyBug on August 26, 2005, at 0:28:41
In reply to Therapy is just too hard, posted by daisym on August 25, 2005, at 20:31:52
Oh Daisy, My heart goes out to you. I know how painful this is as I've been doing this dance for so long. Just when I think I'm pulling myself together, I slide back so far I wonder how I'll ever heal.
A post about insecure atttachment that you wrote last week really got me searching. I talked to my T. about it this week. She told me about *ambivalent insecure attachment*. This is me all the way!!! I understand what it is, now how the heck do I work through it??? I love my T., I want her to love me back, but I'm angry at myself for loving her.
Anger is fear!! I have many fears. Fears of rejection!! She won't love me the way I want her to so I try to DETATCH which will only bring me more pain.
I just want her to give me all the nurturing and love I long for!!! She will offer it but it doesn't feel quite right. It makes me nuts!!! And I agree.....THERAPY IS SO DANG HARD!!!!!!
Let's hang on together, this is a journey and we have good therapist's to help us through.
And we have good people here on BABBLE!!
If you haven't read about "ambivalent insecure attachment", read about it and see what you think.
I'm finding it really interesting, especially the ambivalent part!!!More Hugs for you (((((((DAISY)))))))
LadyBug
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