Posted by Tamar on August 17, 2005, at 13:41:50
In reply to Terrible Session, posted by cricket on August 16, 2005, at 15:10:41
Hi cricket,
I’m sorry your session was so hard. For what it’s worth, I agree with what others have said: I think your therapist misinterpreted your dream.
I think the little kid was afraid that your therapist thinks she’s stupid. Or she’s afraid that you think she’s stupid. And not just stupid; she also seems to feel incompetent (she can’t call the right number; she doesn’t know whether to hold on and wait to talk to him). And in the dream, the public lecture isn’t addressed to her; your therapist isn’t connecting with her personally because she’s in the audience; and in fact not actually present at the lecture but one step removed, listening over the phone.
It really sounds to me as if she wants to connect with him but she’s very afraid he won’t hear her and that he’ll talk past her or over her. Which is, in a way, exactly what seems to have happened…
It seems to me that all the things he said to you come from somewhere else… his own frustration perhaps. I think there is some reverse psychology in all this, but it’s his problem rather than yours. It sounds as if he’s feeling less than confident about being able to help you (hence the ‘you want a mercy killing’ remark). And I suspect he made a big deal out of saying you think he’s stupid because he didn’t want to face the possibility that you might think he’s officious.
However, the thing I think is very hopeful is that the dream therapist speaks the little girl’s language. He doesn’t speak the same Spanish, but he does speak a kind of Spanish that she understands. So it *is* possible for him to understand her, and for her to connect with him. She just has to get him off his podium…
I hope you’re able to sort it all out with him in your next session. It’s unpleasant and painful, but I do think it’s possible.
Tamar
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