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Lott: My T never taught me self esteem.

Posted by Angela2 on August 1, 2005, at 17:22:45

Is this wrong? Unethical? I was going through a difficult relationship where I didn't get along with my boyfriends friends in some ways. It was something that was really bothering me. She suggested that I do things to "help the relationship, make myself feel better." But I didn't like any of her ideas. She would say something like: "tell your boyfriend...'enter boundary here.'" It makes sense what she was telling me. It was what someone with good self esteem and assertiveness would do. This was something I didn't have and I was so uncomfortable doing what she said I should do. She didn't seem to understand that I wasn't understanding why she was telling me to do those things. Is this just a communication problem? Or is she withholding info from me like how I can build up my self esteem? I have told her that I don't have good self esteem and she says "I know." So why doesn't she help me to bring it up?

btw, I would like to go down on my meds and she seems to want me to stay on them. The reason I want to go down is because I want to see how I feel with out them. I may be able to tell her this and have it work out in my favor. But the thing is, every time I try to assert my opinion about what I should do, she seems to come up with a "better." argument over why her way is right. And I end up agreeing with her. Another example of this would be number of times a month I go to therapy. I can't afford every week but she really used to push me to go every week and it cost my parents a fortune. I feel like in a way I have really messed up with my parents. I feel really bad about this and would like to pay them back in some way.

That is all I have to say. Thank you for whoever has read this far. Thank you to anyone who responds.





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