Posted by pinkeye on July 22, 2005, at 20:29:58
In reply to Re: thanx pinkeye!, posted by Jadah on July 22, 2005, at 20:13:50
I am happy to talk to you too!!... I am sorry to hear about the surgery and pain and the problems that you are going through.
Well, frankly, I don't care a bit about your affair with your T. If his wife is not giving him what he wants and needs and he is stuck in it for some reason beyond his control, and he gets some pleasure from you, and you get support and pleasure from him - then I am all for it. IT would have been a different story if he had a good wife. Then it would have been unacceptable. But if she is a jerk, and your T is stuck, then I really don't have that much of a problem.
That is my stance anyway, but I know others here will differ.
But I am more concerned about you, if he ever decides to leave you because of guilt or concerns about his wife. What would you do if he drops you abruptly? That is my real concern. As it is, you have cancer to deal with. On top of it, if he ever decides to stop, I worry if you will have the strength to take it. So atleast develop other support systems - babble, other friends, etc. So in the worst case, you don't get to collapse.
I am not doing so good - my ex T terminated with me, and I have not been able to recover from it..
> thanks pinkeye, and good to talk to you again. good news, my surgery though painful and long term recovery, so far seems to be a success. I will still have to continue on radiation for a few more months but at least I have my hair! I see my T tomorrow. I will continue talking about how we could end this all on a good note. I DO feel bad for his wife. I feel very guilty. There are no excuses, but I do know she doesnt treat him well (hence the affair). I love him so much. I still imagine us having a life together. Its just a fantasy. I will get through this even though it hurts. Oh, I so miss talking with everyone. I was so happy to see you! I hope all is well with you- how have you been? I'll keep checking in, for now, you take care.
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