Posted by Shortelise on July 11, 2005, at 16:26:42
In reply to Re: Post to ShortE re borderline personality disorder, posted by rabble_rouser on July 11, 2005, at 13:59:37
It has been my experience that when I change either my relationships change with me, or they just end. Nothing dramatic, like doors slamming. Just petering off of the relationship. Same as when my friends change.
Say you're someone who talks a lot about how you are feeling because you are going through hard emotional stuff, and we meet on that plain, and we have lots to talk about, I love giving you advice, you make me feel important because I am "helping" you. But then, lo, you are over the hump, you feel better, you don't need to talk about emotional stuff because you aren't going through it so much anymore. So where do I fit in? Maybe I feel you don't need me anymore and I toddle off to find someone who is a mess.
What we BPD people have to be very careful of is to make sure we don't always see people as doing things to us, that we see our part in the world around us, that we don't blame others all the time. Easier said than done.
ShortE
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