Posted by rabble_rouser on July 11, 2005, at 13:59:37
In reply to Re: Post to ShortE re borderline personality disorder » rabble_rouser, posted by Shortelise on July 11, 2005, at 12:01:41
Thank you ShortE, your honesty is appreciated. I hope your plants enjoy the attention too.
Thanks for your comments too! I am the king of inappropriate sometimes, and having someone say 'you are SO weird' to me is wearing off now, as the people that say it turn out to be weird too. Perhaps they are more scared by what they see of themselves in my behaviour? Oooh philosophical.
One question, and I may open this to the board - as you have begun to heal, have you found that some older relationships seem to stop working? I had one period in the past where I made an amazing recovery (bar on eor two key points). I felt really happy, and yet somehow some of my older friends became hostile towards me. Do some people somehow thrive on others weaknesses? Is it possible that some people liked me because my suffering made them feel better about themselves? When you get stronger, do you suddenly see the reality of certain relationships?
I would like to just say "well in that case they are not true friends" but it just somehow doesn't ring true. Equally, when my new-found happiness faded, I lost the new friends I had made as the fizz went out of me. I have done a lot to overcome the 'approval seeking' side of myself, and have made great strides.
But it still leaves a nasty taste in the mouth. Are all relationships really based on the Whats In It For Me principle? Relationships and friendships, I have to admit, are a big 'work in progress' for me - ive never really understood the mechanics of them. (anyone got a manual?) :S
Your thoughts appreciated.
Blue skies
Ross
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