Posted by pinkeye on June 26, 2005, at 21:57:30
In reply to moving on, could trigger, physical , SA, emotional » pinkeye, posted by happyflower on June 26, 2005, at 21:46:41
thanks for telling me that. I think it must have been awful for you growing up.
If you wish to share more of it, I am always here. If that would help you.I guess it is kind of in a way easier to move on when the other person is a jerk. But actually I wouldn't want my ex T to be a jerk just so I can move on or even to think of him as a jerk. I know he is not, and he did care a great deal about me. And I really don't want to think of him like a jerk.. it would really destroy any confidence I have in men. I somehow want to really feel good about him as well as move on !!. Actually for me, feeling good about a person is much easier to move on. There was a guy I liked a lot for a long long time - for many years.. And all the time I didn't tell him that I liked him becuase he was married. After 7 years, after I got married myself, I finally sent him an email one day and told him that I had really liked him long while back. And he replied with such affection and understanding, and after that only I really moved on from him. He told me I meant a great deal to him too - that he really liked me and I was quite special, but he was in love with him wife at the time I met him. And I really didn't mind about that after that. Till that time I really found it impossible to get him out of my mind.. but once he told me he had liked me a lot, boom - it was over for me. and I finally made my peace. I guess it works differently for different people
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