Posted by pinkeye on June 23, 2005, at 17:17:21
In reply to Re: You would never know !!! » pinkeye, posted by happyflower on June 23, 2005, at 17:08:28
I don't know which part you wanted me to explain more - so I will explain all the sentences.
--- The kind of attraction that would be worth considering is if it runs over several months - if you consistently think of the same person for a long time..
Many of us have fleeting attraction - think of a nice guy/girl around us and plesantly fantasize or think of doing things with him, flirt mildly around them, try to talk well etc - it is just our basic nature to associate us with lot of people from opposite sex at this age. As my ex T put it, when you are a child, you always think about different flavors of chocolate and imagine being surrounded by mountains of chocolate. As adults, we fantasize about sex - different forms, with different people. This is very natural, and is mostly about us, and our desires than it is anything about a relationship with other person.
-----And I really don't think your T would have the bandwith to think about any client of his for that length of time, because he probably sees lot of women very intimately, so I wonder if it would have taken all feelings out of him
By this I meant, he must have seen many women and known many of their thoughts and desires and feelings and attractions towards him, and even trial to seduce him. He must have seen plenty of women. And he must have caught himself getting attracted to lot of women clients - becuase therapy is such an intense thing and he probably gets attracted to many of his patients. Over time though, any intelligent guy will come to realize that it is just a passing thing - that he really cannot have a relationship with all women that he meets and gets attracted to. And after seeing lot of women and getting attracted to, he must have run over his limits. It actually depends on how old your T is and how experienced he is. If he is in early 30s, chances are he hasn' experienced it much. But if he is more in 40, chances are he has seen all flavors of women, and have gotten attracted to all of them, and understood its nature by now. So I think he wouldn't be thinking of one client for any lenghts of time.
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