Posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 12:38:01
In reply to Tragedy in T's family, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 6:00:51
All of you had wonderful responses; thanks for giving me things to ponder. And Dinah, you're right that I'll need to cut him slack for awhile -- I'm glad you mentioned that.
He tried to call, but ended up leaving voice mails. He knows me well -- he said that he knew I would worry about it. So, he said, "I'm going to boss you around, and you're going to do what I say even though it goes against your grain. You are to call and page just as I always instruct you to do and always err on the side of caution. This is going on, but we still have work to do and you are a great priority to me. They way to take care of me is to do what I say so I don't worry that you're floating out there without support. We may just need to be flexible for a little while about when we can meet, but it is important to me to work it out."
I still feel torn, but this gave me some good insight and direction. I guess it would burden him more to think I wouldn't get help or fake being "fine" while he is also going through a difficult time that could stretch out for awhile.
Thanks for all of your input!
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