Posted by frida on June 23, 2005, at 8:24:52
In reply to Tragedy in T's family, posted by Aphrodite on June 23, 2005, at 6:00:51
Hi,
it's very hard when something like this happens-i went through it last year, with my therapist's mother. She was very sick and about to die.
it was hard, because I didn't want to add to my T"s burden and at the same time I needed her support, in the end I decided to let her guide me.
but it was better to know- one day I even got to my session and she received a phonecall and had to leave, she was obviously having a very difficult time and i had to leave :-( ..we went together in the lift, she told me she was very sorry...I wanted to comfort her or give her a hug, I didn't know what to do.
then she sent me an email telling me it wasn't because of me...then she had to cancel sessions and she told me directly that she was having a difficult time- and that her mother was going to die.
it all lasted for 2 months more or less. I let her guide me and fortunately her reassurance and emails and knowing that she was with me- were enough for me to hold on and wait patiently...
it was really hard to feel far away from her, but it helped me that she talked openly with me after that episode in which she had to stop my session because of a phonecall.((((Aphrodite)))))
lots of support
frida
> Anyone dealt with this? A close family member of my T's is near death. He told me so I would know in advance if we get interrupted and he has to run or if he cancels abruptly. He said, "Of course, we still have work to do, so we cannot let it interfere. I'll make sure the interruption in minimal."
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> Well, I'm paralyzed. I'm a big caretaker, y'know, and there's no way in heck I can add to what's on his plate right now. On the other hand, I've been a mess and don't have other means of support except for you guys of course.
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> I know they're trained to put things aside, but sheesh. This one is big. Any experience or thoughts about this?
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