Posted by happyflower on June 17, 2005, at 20:51:15
In reply to Re: How could I think of doing this?!, posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:19:48
Good luck Jazzy! I am cheering in your corner! When is your next appointment? You know I was worried about getting too attached to my T too after reading all the stories here. But I think for someone like me who needs to learn to trust almost has to get somewhat attached or therapy won't work. I think avoiding getting attached to your T is a way not to deal with your feelings or work with him. I know others don't feel this way but I think I needed to feel like there is a decent human on this earth and I could trust again somebody. My T has proven to me over and over again he will not let me down, I can depend on him and trust him to help me. He knows I have been let down by so many authority figures, parents, teachers, priests, and doctors that he has to try real hard to earn my trust. So I am just going to let myself feel attached if I feel it. He told me it was okay, and shows that I am growing emotionally.
My life is changing so much because of therapy, I just know I am doing the right thing. I don't believe my T will leave me high and dry unless of course in death. He told me he will be there for me as long as I need him. He said eventually when you improve your life, I will no longer need him anymore. I can't get from him what I can in real relationships. Therapy won't be enough for me, I will want to form friendships with people and be social. Therapy relationships are very limited. I am stiving for friendships now. Big improvement for me! So I say let yourself feel what you feel. Maybe you need to feel attached to trust your T, I don't know, I am just moving forward and am trying to heal my pain, and I am not going to let the fear of attachment keep me from moving forward. I feel I have a good T and he will be gentle with me when it is time to end therapy. He doesn't want to become on my long list of people who let me down. I trust him to help me deal with his loss someday because I do believe that he truely cares about me.
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