Posted by Jazzed on June 17, 2005, at 20:19:48
In reply to Re: How could I think of doing this?! » Jazzed, posted by Tamar on June 17, 2005, at 17:43:37
Thanks Dinah and Tamar!I really do appreciate your input. I hope my huge flip flop doesn't seem totally irrational to everyone, but hasn't anyone ever made you mad, and then later, after thinking about it, you realized that, even though you didn't like hearing it, they were right?
Dinah,I know what you mean but I think I'll feel more confident with my ability to stay neutral with this guy and speak my mind right from the get go.
I'm so afraid of becoming emotionally attached and not being able to accomplish anything in therapy because of being overwhelmed with my feelings for a T. I don't want this, and yet this is the way I tend to be. So maybe the less I like him, the better off I'll be.
Tamar:> I dunno. I thought your description of him after your first meeting was pretty clear - I really got the impression you didn't like him.
I didn't like him at all! That's what's so weird about it. BUT, he made me mad and he made me think! Then I thought, well maybe I need to be mad. Maybe it's not so bad being mad. I really don't think he meant to make me mad, I think it is just his approach, which I can handle IF he's open to what I have to say, and I"ll find that out tomorrow. I do think he got just a bit frustrated with me because I didn't say all that much. I was too busy screaming inside my head that I wanted to get out of there! LOL
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> I'm just wondering if you want therapy very much and you've met this therapist and so you find it easier to imagine going back to him than trying out a few others.Yep, I guess that's part of it. I really don't want to search for someone, and I don't think my husband would understand if I kept going from T to T searching for the perfect one. He's had no experience with me and T's. AND, this guy has evening and Sat. hrs., and this so works for me.
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> I suppose you could give him a second chance. I guess if you do, it might be helpful to decide in advance what you hope to get out of the session, and see if that's what you get.Thanks, I did make an appt. with him, and I do know what I where I want to go with it. I decided that I will tell him I know what I have to do with disciplining my kids, and I agree with him that I have to be consistent, but I don't have to be a harda** about it. I also want to tell him not to tell me I'm being irrational, that isn't helpful. And then I'll see what he has to say about working on my anxiety and self esteem. We'll see how it goes.
I'm still testing the waters.I know this might seem so ..... "irrational" to all of you, but I have to give it another go. Now, I'm going to feel really stupid if I see my p-doc tomorrow, after I told HIM there's no way I'd see this guy again! LOL Oh well.......
Jazzy
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