Posted by Dinah on May 26, 2005, at 9:14:40
In reply to Re: Is there any other way to interpret this? » Dinah, posted by Tamar on May 25, 2005, at 19:14:25
> I’ve been on both sides of this. I’ve had friends who wanted more of my time than I felt I was able to give, even when I wasn’t stressed or depressed. I didn’t love them any less. I didn’t feel devoured. I simply gave them whatever I could. I’ve also been the one who wants more, and I was lucky to have friends who loved me enough to give me whatever they could. In some friendships, we’ve switched positions several times. In fact, with one of my close friends we’ve gone back and forth like a tennis ball. At the moment it’s my turn to need her, and her turn to be short of time. But we have a lot of fun when we do get together, and that makes it worth waiting for her.
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> Real friends would be glad to see the real you. They might not always be able to give you what you want, but you might also find you can’t give your friends everything they want.
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>That is a wonderful mature attitude! I don't tend to think in those terms, but I'll try to start. Yes. That definitely sounds like a good reframing of my more extreme thoughts. :)
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