Posted by Dinah on May 22, 2005, at 21:56:04
In reply to Fill-in-the-blank perfection, posted by messadivoce on May 22, 2005, at 21:44:47
His wife was in the office once, speaking to the secretary with exasperation about one of his personal qualities that I've noticed myself. He's been clear that his daughter doesn't see him as the perfect Mommy I see him as. I know he's not the perfect therapist. He picks up every minuscule microscopic scrap of lint on the carpet, while keeping his desk (and his schedule) an unholy mess.
He's got a pretty good sized ego. He smokes cigars. He picks his nose. His shoes are too shiny for me to ever fully trust him. His hair always looks like it's just been cut. He likes money... a lot.
He's been fired more times than I'm comfortable with. He's had failed marriages.
He sometimes isn't even as perfect a therapist/mommy as I would like. He gets exasperated. He speaks without thinking. But he's a good enough therapist/mommy, and that's good enough for me.
Hmmm... He says I overvalue his interpersonal skills. And I think he's extraordinarily good at emotional holding. He *feels* just right, most of the time. He's fabulous at projecting calm and safety. So maybe I think he's better in that way than he is. But not perfect.
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