Posted by Tamar on May 15, 2005, at 17:16:14
In reply to Re: Do any of you block your T or ex T out? » Tamar, posted by pinkeye on May 15, 2005, at 16:58:10
I know what you mean about spoiling the good feelings with anger. But very often anger is a normal part of grief. Often bereaved people feel angry at the person who died - because the dead person has gone away and it feels like abandonment. It isn't wrong to feel anger, even if the person hasn't actually intended to hurt you.
But if you allow yourself to be angry you will come through those feelings and begin to accept the loss. And the feelings of love come back after anger. The anger doesn't destroy the love.
Your ex-T sounds like a great person. No wonder you still miss him. And no wonder you feel hurt at losing him. It's OK, though, to feel angry sometimes. And the good memories will still be there afterwards.
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